Friday, February 20, 2009

Passive Aggressive

Tonight I sent Matthew upstairs to his bedroom to clean up all the lego on the floor before he could come down and eat his supper. This was the logical consequence of having lied to me when I asked, "Did you clean up the lego like I asked you to?" I heard him clinking lego into the box s.l.o.w.l.y. through the floorboards above our heads, and sniffling. Ayden and I finished our suppers. Ayden finally requested permission to run upstairs and see if Matthew was finished, and discovered Matthew asleep on the floor of his bedroom.
Want to get out of chores? Simply fall asleep in the middle of them.
Too bad he still had to clean up all the legos. You can't passive aggressive THIS momma and get away with it.
Hmpf.
This made me half mad, half snort with laughter.
What a monsta.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Melissa, do you really think a child that young could fall asleep out of spite? It doesn't make sense to me. More like overwelmed, no energy, tired? Clare is a kid who also all of a sudden cannot do anything when it comes to cleaning,Her legs hurt, or she just cannnnnnnt do ittt. (whine added as example of what she is like, hee hee
0, but I don't think she could put herself to sleep to avoid cleaning. Are you sure something else is not going on? alyssa

Breanne said...

Maybe so, but Melissa knows her kid better than any of us. Right?

Caryn and Dan said...

OH KIDS CAN TOTALLY BE SPITEFULL!

Maybe "something else" is going on...but that always is the case with kids. I mean I think we can always find a technical "reason" behind childrens actions if we look hard enough. But I don't remember the last time my kid wasn't hungry or tired or overwhelmed or overstimulated or sick with a cold or etc. etc. That doesn't mean I can excuse his behaviour and solely a result of that.
Kids are very smart, and if they find a way to get away with something... they will! Atleast mine does!
Matthew sounds like one smart cookie... I totally think he could do it spitefully... sorry anonymous... not to pick a fight, but I don't know instilling worry in Melissa that "something else" is going on is the best advice.

PS. Melissa feel free to delete this comment after you read it... its kinda mean to anonymous... but you are a great Mom!!!! Man I don't even really know you and I'm getting all protective of you!

Anonymous said...

No worries about being mean, I am not angry about your comment. Of course kids can be spitefull, but put themselves to sleep out of spite, can you do that? My comments where not putting Melissa's mothering skills to the test, just maybe her perception of his intent, I know she is a great mother, and I don't think suggesting that his falling asleep suggests something to worry over, he was probably tired. slowly cleaning blocks would be passive aggressive. My child also has this passive aggressive avoid cleaning by going so slow that mom gets frustrated and comes and helps. But she wouldn't fall asleep doing it, she would be tired acting. I quess I wasn't clear on what part of her story seemed not to be passive aggressive, I did not mean the whole story. hmmmm I don't want to open up a fight, this is not coming from a angry tone, I am wondering though from your comments about your children, Do you force them to do things like cleaning when they are sick? not sure what you mean here? How old are your kids,a teen is different than a 4 year old, because any 4 year old who was in these situations you mentioned should be shown grace,in my mind anyways. We are not talking about a kid who hit, but fell asleep. "But I don't remember the last time my kid wasn't hungry or tired or overwhelmed or overstimulated or sick with a cold or etc. etc. That doesn't mean I can excuse his behaviour and solely a result of that.
Kids are very smart, and if they find a way to get away with something." again my intent is to gain understanding of your comment, not start anger. Sorry if it comes out that way, parenting differences sometimes causes emotions to fly easily.

Anonymous said...

with all that said, I am open to the fact that I may be wrong, I wasn't there, just going on melissa's telling of the story. alyssa

Caryn and Dan said...

Ok Truce.

Caryn and Dan said...

I appologize... I never meant for this comment board to become a discussion/parenting forum. I guess I shouldn't have been so forward in my first comment. As you were saying, comments about parenting can cause emotions to fly easily...

Love Melissa's Blog.
Love the witty writing.

Roboseyo said...

I fell asleep while I was reading this post and the comments, just to piss you all off.


Whatcha gonna do about that, mel?
Bwahahahahaha!

Also:
I still love lamp.