Saturday, July 25, 2009
I keep meaning to post this story about some pretty stinky advice I got from someone. Ayden was at the doctor's office getting a wart removed, and I asked the nurse a breastfeeding question. She happens to be a breastfeeding counsellor and their office is focused on becoming breastfeeding friendly (a UNICEF initiative that focuses on positive and supportive social supports for breastfeeding moms). I asked if she had any advice for helping me to get my (then) 9 month old baby to stop biting me when he is breastfeeding. Ayden never bit me, but Riley has been doing it since his very first latch an hour after birth. OUCH. So this nurse at my doctor's office says, "If you take his pinky finger and put it in your mouth, when he bites you you can bite down with your teeth, just enough to let him know what it feels like. If you do it every time, eventually he will probably stop."
EXCUSE ME???? You want me to BITE my nine month old baby in order to teach him not to bite? And you want me to use this technique because it is likely that 'eventually he will probably stop?' I'm sorry. You are a retard. I was polite about it, but I thought she was crazy! No way am I biting my nine month old baby. Period. Isn't that stupid?
The worst of the biting was 0 to 4 months, then his digestive system seemed to mature and I was able to eat cheese and milk again, and he was able to pass gas without clamping down with his jaw. But he still bit me fairly often until 9 1/2 months, when he finally became old enough to connect A and B, and I would sternly say NO BITING! and put him on the floor and refuse to pick him up for a few minutes. I would do that for non-nursing biting too, which he did a fair amount of--on our shoulders, arms, stomachs, and legs. I think he just liked the feeling of biting down, and didn't realize it garnered any type of effect on anyone, until I started with the NO BITING and putting him on the ground. He stopped for about 2 months, and now he's slipping it in again. And now his teeth are bigger, and sharp! Now he seems to do it when he REALLY wants to breastfeed and is cranky, overstimulated, or overtired, and does it just when he initially latches on. Jeepers does it drive me crazy. It makes me tense all the time, because I never know when it will happen and when it won't. Once he settles, he's fine and latches properly and doesn't bite, but I don't know what to do because he isn't aware that he is biting.
Anyways, anyone have better advice than 'bite his little finger?' It only hurts for a second, and he isn't doing any damage to my breasts, but it sure would be nice if he would stop!