Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Last week we had a parent-teacher conference with Matthew's grade one teacher and learning assistance teacher. This is the second conference since he started grade one, and it's reassuring and QUITE hilarious that they report he continues to be very quiet, well behaved, and responsible in the classroom. My son MATTHEW was described as RESPONSIBLE!!!
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Good parents sometimes feel anger toward their children. It's a basic fact of life. We need to accept that anger is normal in every love relationship, whether partner, co-worker, friend, or parent-child. How we deal with that anger can damage the relationship or make it a valuable source of teaching and strengthen the connections.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Friday, November 19, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
WHAT TIME DID YOU GET UP THIS MORNING?
8:00, what a blissful sleep in!!!
HOW DO YOU LIKE YOUR STEAK?
WHAT WAS THE LAST FILM YOU SAW AT THE CINEMA?
Alvin and the Chipmunks, the Squeakel? No, I saw Eat, Love, Pray with my friends Ro, Bev, and Cori
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW?
Criminal Minds (note to self: don't watch Criminal Minds marathons when your hubby's on night shift)
IF YOU COULD LIVE ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD WHERE WOULD IT BE?
WHAT DID YOU HAVE FOR BREAKFAST?
Oatmeal with mashed banana and cinnamon, and milk
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE FOOD?
Indian food: especially Paneer Tikka and samosas, I also love cilantro, fresh salsa, vegetarian dishes including greek, Mexican, and Indian, homemade plum perogies with sour cream, good borscht, dark chocolate, fried spinach with butter, tzatziki, gingerbread, whipped cream with no sugar, decaf lattes, chocolate croissants, steamed CRAB with butter and fresh steamed veggies, salads of all sorts though I am particular about my dressings, and pizza. Just a few favorites. I might evolve into a true foodie soon.
WHAT IS YOUR LEAST FAVORITE FOOD?
During this pregnancy, SALMON.
Normally, anything with too much meat or which is bland. Russian food is pretty gross, as a whole.
FAVORITE PLACE TO EAT?
Changes all the time: usually a vinegarette, or oil, garlic, lemon juice, mustard seed, and a dash of honey
WHAT CAR DO YOU DRIVE?
A big ugly minivan Dodge Grand Caravan that really likes to eat gas but fits all my kids and my dog
pyjamas, leggings and long sweaters, sweat pants
WHERE WOULD YOU GO IF YOU HAD THE CHANCE?
Isreal, Thailand, Africa, West Europe
WHERE WOULD YOU WANT TO RETIRE?
FAVORITE TIME OF DAY?
Evening after everyone's in bed and it's just me and Brent
WHERE WERE YOU BORN?
FAVE SPORT TO WATCH?
I love watching birds! Sometimes I remember to look them up
MORNING OR NIGHT PERSON?
NIGHT. Fortunately I married a night person, and have 2/3 night person kids. We're in sync, except for that one morning guy....
DO YOU HAVE ANY PETS?
My cat Paige (I love cats) and my stinky, large, well behaved, pain in the ass dog Simon
ANY NEW EXCITING NEWS YOU'D LIKE TO SHARE?
We're 2 inches from an offer on our house
WHAT DID YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WERE LITTLE?
BEST CHILDHOOD MEMORY?
So many goodies! Food, family, tearing around the woods behind our house, riding my horse, traveling across Canada with my mom, siblings, cousin, auntie, and grandparents in 88.
CAT OR DOG PERSON?
Cats. Hands down. My BFF says how can you like an animal that sits on your lap and purrs while you pet it, and then without warning turns around and bites your hand? I like unpredictability, what can I say. I don't like high maintenance pets, I guess. And the dog love feels a bit like having an adoring parasite hanging around. And cats smell better.
Though i still love my dog!
ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP?
ALWAYS WEAR A SEAT BELT?
Mostly. My car dings at me incessantly if I don't. Sometimes I don't at work
Innumerable: witnessed and scraped up off the road and experienced
People who dump their household crap outside the donation bins in parking lots, noisy chewing, Kissing my prickly Movember husband
FAVE PIZZA TOPPING?
FAVE ICE CREAM?
Haagen Dazs chocolate chunk
FAVE FAST FOOD JOINT?
LAST EMAIL FROM?
WHERE WOULD YOU WISH TO MAX OUT YOUR CREDIT CARD?
DO ANYTHING SPONTANEOUS LATELY
I'm not that good at spontaneous
Yummy with homemade cheese sauce: otherwise a weird pain in the ass vegetable
LAST PERSON YOU WENT FOR MEAL WITH?
Brent last Monday evening
WATCHING RIGHT NOW?
Toy Story 3 for the 50,000th time
when I'm done breastfeeding
COFFEE OR TEA?
Consider yourselves enlightened! And tagged, all of you!!!
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Children are actually more resilient than adults are, when it comes to conflict, major transitions, and dealing with adversity; so why are we so certain we will irreprably damage them with our parenting if we do it "wrong?"
Maybe we just need to accept that all of our children will be critical of our parenting. :-) I mean, we're all going to screw it up somehow! Guess we need to start teaching our children about grace at a very young age and hope they will have grace for our mistakes when they are older! [It] isn't necessarily about the method we use, but about the RELATIONSHIP we have with our children. That knowing your child, knowing what works for that child, loving that child despite their flaws, seeking forgiveness from our children when we screw up ... And we will screw up!!! :-) AND, such a great thing to remind people about - we are not God. We cannot do it all for our kids. We have to have grace for ourselves in parenting. [And in talking about her own parents and their imperfections:] But, you know what, I have grace for THEM. I know they weren't perfect, but I'm over it. I'm not going to dwell on how they screwed up. What is the point? Now, my parents were certainly far far from abusive, so I am not saying this to those who were abused. That is a whole different thing. I'm right back to the grace thing. :-) Let's focus on learning about God's grace for us and teaching God's grace to our children and pray that our children will have grace for us when they are older.
Of course, parenting is an enormous responsibility, and we don't want to absolve ourselves from that nor be thoughtless about it. But the goal is NOT perfection, the goal is interconnectedness and good conflict management, and methodology needs to drive us towards close attachment and reasonable conflict management with our children. That seems so much more beautiful in the end, anyways. I have grace for my childrens' faults and for my own, which models what I ultimately want my children to have, also. Grace for the faults and shortcomings of others, including myself, and grace for themselves in their own. If I model relentless drive for perfection as an individual, even in one area, even in a supremely important area, I teach my children to treat themselves that way also. When I show myself grace, I model showing grace to oneself. And that is more important to me than that my children grow up perfectly healthy and balanced in a manner that reflects well upon ME.
If I want them to be kind to themselves, I need to model kindness towards myself. And to model an appropriate posture before God: if I acknowledge my need for Him I also acknowledge His Grace, which I wish for my children to know at a deep level as they grow.
I would venture a guess that methodology is less important than interconnectedness, in parenting. Interconnectedness, and attachment, is limitless. There is no perfect score, and there is no measure for it. We simply strive to go deeper into it, and therein we find peace.